My husband is a former paid staff pastor. We left the institutional church where we were serving a little over a year now. It has been a challenging and beautiful journey and I am excited to see where it will lead us (well most days recently excited but honestly still sometimes scared and confused). I have met some great people who are really understanding of the struggles and freedom that come with a life lived apart from "people pleasing." I have, however, met very few former pastor's wives on this journey. I have noticed that several former pastors have been a part of forums like this and I have even had a chance to meet a couple of them but I have not been able (to my knowledge at least) to talk with a woman who is married to one of these pastors. Maybe I have just overlooked these women but there seem to be a shortage of former pastor's wives in the circles I have been involved in. I have deeply enjoyed and appreciated so many of the discussions that take place on forums like these. I was just wondering if there are any former pastor's wives plugged in here. There are some specific challenges that come up with this particular role and I would love to hear from some other women on how they are/have dealt with these things. Leaving the life of institutional christianity has been a journey by itself but it complicates matters further to have the institution be your source of livelihood. I was just wondering if anyone else has waded through these waters. Anyone got any ideas for me? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. May you find the true peace, love and hope you are looking for! God bless!