I want to share a few other passages that make it clear that Paul expected women to speak in the church. If not, why would he have given the following instructions? There would be no reason for him to give directions for women who were speaking in the church, if they were never allowed to do speak.
"Every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head—it is the same as having her head shaved." (I Corinthians 11:5)
So what do we do with the troubling verses that command women to be silent in the churches? Well, we have to interpret those verses in light of what we have already covered--that there were women in leadership positions of the church. Obviously, Paul was not writing to them. He was addressing another issue entirely--the women who were loud and unruly during the service, causing disorder and confusion..
When he wrote to the church in Corinth, he was dealing with a church that was very disorderly in their services. He spent most of the letter correcting excesses and abuses. Some of these pertained to women in particular and some were to the entire church. Paul was not being prejudiced against women when he told the Corinthian women to keep silent. In the early church, the seating arrangement was quite different from our modern day churches. Men were seated on one side of the church while the women and children were seated on the opposite side. In fact, this is still practiced in many cultures today.
The women of Christ's day were generally uneducated and usually only men were educated. When the church met the women were tempted to shout across the room and ask their husbands the meaning of whatever was being taught. As you can imagine, this disrupted the service. Paul was simply saying during the service, "Women, keep your children quiet and you be quiet, and if you have anything to ask your husbands, wait until you get home." Because of the new equality that Christianity brought to women, it could be that some of them were taking their freedom too far, to the point of being obnoxious. (I am sure that you probably know some men that are like that, today).
When Paul wrote to Timothy, he gave him similar instructions. Once again, we have to understand the context of the letter. In I Timothy, a careful reader should see that Paul was concerned about many severe heresies and false teachings. As a matter of fact, many of the proponents and victims of the false teachings, were women. Timothy pastored in Ephesus, and goddess worship might have played a large part in Paul dealing so severely with the women. Ephesus was a primary center of the worship of Diana or Artemis. The heresies taught might have suggested that women were authoritative over men and had higher access to spiritual knowledge than men did. Some of that still exists in the Church, today.
Regardless of the particulars, in both cases Paul was dealing with specific incidents in specific churches for very particular reasons.
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