A Finally, we come to Acceptance. The good news is what’s out there ahead of you. The
bad news is that it may be years away. I figure it took me about eight years to fully recover
from my institutional paradigm. Of course, I was a clergy person perpetuating the lie within the
institution, so I was a hard case. Many of our friends report similar timeframes, but you might
do it quicker.
One thing you should remember in the grieving process: It’s not like you take the steps in order once and then disembark into the Visitor’s Center of the Promised Land. What is more likely is that you will cycle through the stages a number of times, not necessarily in the same order, as you move through deeper levels of healing. So, relax! If you mess it up the first couple of times, you’re likely to get another chance to do it right.
This begs a question: “Can this be done?” My advice is simple: Decide that this is an adventure. People spend millions of dollars every year to experience adventures. Whether it’s putting our life on the line to hunt lions, or to climb a mountain, or just to go to a theme park and let someone heave us over the top of a roller coaster while we scream our lungs out onto the back of the person in the seat in front of us. We all crave adventure. Maybe your desire for adventure is less dramatic, perhaps like a trip to the country on the weekend. Whatever your brand of adventure, be sure Father will stretch your definition to more closely align with His.
This is the adventure of all time. Your eternal life is at stake, along with the lives of those you will be privileged to touch along the journey.
It is the ultimate adventure.
Take Time To Heal
As you cycle through the stages of grief, the result is the deinstitutionalization of your entire being. Your mind needs to be freed from its chains. You will discover you are not a “sinner saved by grace” but a real live Saint. The New Testament never calls us sinners; however, we are called “Saints” more than two hundred times. There is real freedom in knowing our place in the Kingdom of God.
Your emotions need healing. Your body needs healing. Your relationships need healing. Your finances need help. The process of deinstitutionalization will affect every possible aspect of your being as unbiblical and anti-biblical religiosity is replaced with the freedom found in the Word.